Eric and Rachel got married in a small seaside ceremony in La Jolla. It was just them, their parents, and their pastors on a little bluff overlooking the ocean. The summer crowds had left earlier in the month so the coastline was peaceful. Beneath us, the water rolled along the beach, tumbling into the golden cliffs that held this little party of 12. The waves felt like massive sighs, ushering in the fall season with a breath of cool air. From the street above us, our intimate gathering must have looked teeny against the landscape. But from within, the ceremony…